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REAL AND PERFECT LOVE 

When you love someone, your love for them grows each day. you cant imagine a life without them. Every day you feel your heart has reached its largest point and the next day it grows yet again for this person. They become as much a part of you as you are, you love them. When you are in love with somebody, it would most likely be your spouse. You can show your appreciation for each other easily. You feel the same way you do when you love each other but it's more than that. You will spend the rest of your life together and they become a giant part of your life.


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Am I in Love?
How to Know if You're Really in Love

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It is a very common question, "How can I tell I'm in love?", but it is not an easy question to answer. What feels like love to one person may be nothing more than attraction to another. Some people fall in and out of love quickly and often while others are never really in love as much as they are in lust. This can get confusing when you are a teen because romantic love is a relatively new concept for you and you don't know what to expect. You are overwhelmed with all sorts of new feelings and social pressures. They are confusing. What is love? What makes you want a romantic relationship with one person and not another? How does your heart choose a partner? Why does love end? These questions can't be easily answered.

One of the most confusing quasi-love feelings is lust. Lust is a very powerful, very intense feeling of physical attraction toward another person. Lust is mainly sexual in nature - the attraction is superficial based on instant chemistry rather than genuine caring. Usually we lust after people we do not know well, people we still feel comfortable fantasizing about. It is very common for people to confuse lust for love. But why? What is it about lust and love that make them so easy to mix up? If lust is all about sex, how can a relationship without sex be about lust? Teens struggle with this because they see lust in the Biblical sense, but lust isn't that sinister. Lust is about physical attraction and acting ONLY on physical attraction. Love is about much more than that. Yet many teens (and to be fair, many adults) confuse an intense attraction for some sort if divine love. For teens, since feelings of attraction are still new and since pop-culture sells sex and love as one package, it is very easy to get the two mixed up.

Lust is clearly not love. Love is based on more than just physical attraction. Sure, attraction is a factor, but love goes deeper than that. Love is based on caring, friendship, commitment and trust. When you are in love it is as if you have your best most trusted friend at your side AND you feel physically attracted to them. It is the best of both worlds! Love is a shared feeling between two people who have a vested interest in one anothers happiness. Love is not about jealousy. It is not about conflict. It is not about testing. Love is a positive feeling. If it is tainted by mistrust, jealousy, insecurity or spitefulness it is not really love but merely a pale copy. Love is the total surrender of your heart to another person with the security of knowing they will treat it better than you will. Love should feel good. It should not feel bad. Love should make you want to be a better person, it should not lead you to do something self destructive. Love is not demanding of your spirit but lifts it and makes it glow. Love is a good thing. Anything less is lust, deep friendship or attraction. So the sappiness aside, the question remains, how can you tell you are in love?

There is no easy way to find the truth behind your feelings or the feelings of another person but there are some tell-tale signs that love is blooming (or growing deeper). If you agree with 7 of the following 9 statements you are probably in love.

  1. You know, because you have been told by your significant other, that your deep feelings are returned in kind.
  2. The object of your affections makes you feel special and good about yourself.
  3. If/when you feel jealous it is always fleeting; you trust your partner not to betray you or hurt your relationship.
  4. Nothing makes you feel as serene as when you and your partner are together.
  5. When you fight with your partner you usually make up within a few hours and you always agree that nothing is more important than you both being able to express your true feelings (even if they sometimes cause conflict).
  6. Your partner never asks you to choose between him/her and your loyalties to your family and friends - if you do choose him/her over them you always have a good reason and it is always YOUR decision, and your decision alone.
  7. Neither you or your partner feel the need to test the other's loyalties or feelings.
  8. You are more yourself when with your partner than you are with anybody else.
  9. If sex is part of your relationship it is by mutual desire and agreement without the slightest hint of commitment testing or persuasion.
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What Is Love?

   

 

“When you look at love, you're looking into the face of appreciation.”

Throughout the history of mankind, we as a world culture have made love out to be mysterious, complex, difficult, and undefinable. It’s the subject of endless poems and literary works. There is an enormous amount of material available out there about love, a lot of it contradictory.

We’ve been given the impression that to define love is near to impossible. Maybe there’s a fear that if we define it, it would somehow be less powerful...less impactful...less exhilarating. Maybe we like the mystery of it. But is it really that complicated? Perhaps the complications surrounding love come from all “stuff” we add on to this powerful emotion. Lets drop all the baggage surrounding relationships and define what it is we are experiencing in the moment of love.

Basic Components of Love

What do you feel when you love someone? If distilled down to it’s core components, what would those be? Yes, love is an emotion, a feeling, a wanting, and a “being”. We know it feels good, but what specific feelings, wantings, and beings are present when we feel love? Here are the common denominators of love...

Love is Accepting.
Acceptance is labeling someone as "okay" and having no particular desire to change them. Who they are is perfectly fine with you. You pose no condition on whether you will love them or not. This is call unconditional love. When your love IS conditional, the moment they step outside your set of conditions, love evaporates.

Love is Appreciating.
Appreciation is one step beyond acceptance. Its when your focus is on what you like about another. We look at them and feel this sweeping appreciation for who they are, their joy, their insights, their humor, their companionship, etc. When someone says they are "in love" with another, they mean their appreciation is so enormous for this person that it consumes their every thought.

Love is Wanting Another to Feel Good.
We want those we love to be happy, safe, healthy, and fulfilled. We want them to feel good in all ways, physically, mentally and emotionally.

How Do We Express Love?

We don’t always express our love. Love is a feeling and the expression of that feeling is separate. It’s an action. There’s a practical reason we don’t always express our love for another. It’s an issue of TIME. We only have 24 hours in a day (if you make it up that way). If the expression of love was a core ingredient to love, we would have to be stingy with who we loved, because there simply wouldn’t be enough time to demonstrate our love for everyone! If you see the distinction between the feeling and the expression, you can then love endless numbers of people.

Attention

Love expressed is when you give your attention, your time, your focus to someone. Webster defines attention as “the giving of one’s mind to something."

There are many ways in which we give our attention to another. We use our five senses. Our ears to listen. Being completely present with the one who is speaking. Our eyes, watching another, undivided attention. Tasting/smelling? (I’ll let you figure that one out). Touching, giving a hug, holding a hand, a caress, or sexual expression. How you express your love depends on the type of relationship.

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Is love more then butterflies and a fast heart beat?

Mature love is beyond the butterflies and heart throbbing. It is a love that starts with YOU first. Do you truly love yourself? Are you secure in your self-esteem and feel content in your personal life? This issue is extremely important to deal with, for you need to love yourself before you can truly love another. what is love

True love is not only about a constant physical attraction. It is about staying together through the rough times and helping each other with tears and fears, as well as laughter and sparkling smiles. You both never try to change each other, but except one another for who you really are, instead of arguing or blaming the other for the differences between you. You are not only lovers, yet wonderful friends, who are honest and trust each other with your personal feelings and worries. With each experience you go through, you learn more about the other and love and appreciate them even more, continuing to give each other the space to grow into their own independent character. If you need advice on a personal issue, ask the experts.

What is in Love ?

Though love itself is simple, telling the difference between true love and infatuation can be rather confusing, especially in our young years when our hormones are raging. Sometimes we meet a person who just makes our bodies jittery and our heads full of daydreams and fantasies and we mistaken that for love, when it is indeed, only an infatuation or crush. For example, a young girl can find her teacher good looking, kind and intelligent, which awakens her already raging hormones to gather together and form this huge feeling of fascination, putting the person on a pedestal, without even knowing anything about them. They constantly think of the other, depending on them for a high self esteem, or low however the person will react towards them and so on. Because you will feel these feelings at the first stage of true love for another, you might get confused when you get at this point, as many do. However, you should be patient and give yourself some time and observe whether your love or infatuation matures into true love.

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"One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love." - Sophocles

"Attention is the most basic form of love; through it we bless and are blessed." - John Tarrant

"We love because it's the only true adventure." - Nikki Giovanni

"Love is like quicksilver in the hand. Leave the fingers open and it stays. Clutch it, and it darts away." - Dorothy Parker

"Love is friendship set on fire." - unknown

"Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing." - Goethe

"To be in love is merely to be in a state of perceptual anesthesia." - H.L. Mencken

"Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it...It really is worth fighting for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk everything, you risk even more." - Erica Jong

"Sometimes love is stronger than a man's convictions." - Isaac Bashevis Singer

"Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness." - Oliver Wendell Holmes

"Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it." - Robert Mitchum

"Love stretches your heart and makes you big inside." - Margaret Walker

"Love has no awareness of merit or demerit; it has no scale... Love loves; this is its nature." - Howard Thurman

"Love is like war: Easy to begin but hard to end." - Anonymous

"Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other." - Rainer Maria Rilke

"Where love is, no room is too small." - Talmud

"Loves makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place." - Zora Neale Hurston

"Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." - Mark Twain

"Love is more than three words mumbled before bedtime. Love is sustained by action, a pattern of devotion in the things we do for each other every day." - Nicholas Sparks

"To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven." - Karen Sunde

"A love song is just a caress set to music." - Sigmund Romberg

"Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit." - Peter Ustinov

"Love is like a violin. The music may stop now and then, but the strings remain forever." - unknown

"Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence." - Erich Fromm

"In the final analysis, love is the only reflection of man's worth." - Bill Wundram, Iowa Quad Cities Times

"Love doesn't make the world go round, love is what makes the ride worthwhile." - Elizabeth Browning

"Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,
A medley of extemporanea;
And love is a thing that can never go wrong;
And I am Marie of Roumania."
- Dorothy Parker

"To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down."
- Woody Allen,

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    knew all of the jokes they wanted. I thought all women wanted
    was the same kinds of jokes that men did.

    You know, the sarcastic wit and ironic punch lines that all
    guys like. Comedy is supposed to be universal after all, right? 

    Wrong. 

    As I looked around at the guys that were getting girls, I was
    noticing that the guys, in most cases, didn't need to have a
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    countless books. And a common one then was one by David D himself,
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    It made sense to me at the time, so I tried it out.

    I ended up getting a few women to like me using this approach.

    Since it seemed to be working, I tried to use this on every
    woman I saw.

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    What I learned was that the women I was using this strategy on
    were the more "tomboy" side of the group, the girls who are
    generally more masculine.

    While that's all well and good, what occurred to me was that, by
    only attracting this small minority of women, I was leaving a
    huge percentage of women still on the table.

    Right off the bat, by using this method, most women hated me.

    I needed to change things up. 

    That's when I started to focus on watching my friend Will.

    Will is not who I'd call the wittiest or funniest guy around,
    but he always seemed to have a great rapport with women. Girls
    were always around him, maybe not rolling on the ground in
    stitches, but always with a playful smile on their face.

    What was his secret? 

    Watching him, I realized that he had what I'd like to call
    a "playground" or "fourth grade" sensibility when it came to
    humor.

    He would tell knock-knock jokes, or playfully tickle the girls.

    Instead of being the greatest comic of all time, he was just
    out there having fun with the girls, and that's what they were
    responding to.

    And that's when it hit me: 

    Girls don't want funny, they want FUN. 

    But why?

    A simple process for making girls laugh

    Look around for a moment and realize what girls are laughing at.
    They're not heading out to the latest dark indie movie or
    listening to the new Louis CK album.

    (If they are, good for them, but this is a rare thing.)

    They're going out to the latest romantic comedy and having a
    good time. There's a reason romantic comedies are geared
    towards a female audience. That's what they respond to! 

    In the same way, don't let your humor be too sophisticated or
    clever. It'll just look like you're trying too hard and girls
    don't respond to guys who are out there trying to act "cool".

    They respond to guys who are just being themselves.

    Especially if they themselves are fun. 

    Think about it: If you tell a hard-to-follow joke to a girl,
    she will sit there for a moment confused, trying to figure out
    your joke. That moment of her figuring-it-out, even if it's a
    great joke, is a moment that takes her out of the moment.

    She just wants to respond to the fun that you're exuding, not
    worry about whether or not she's getting the joke.

    Again fun, NOT funny. 

    Playground humor never gets old. Just imagine you're two
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    was just about simple jokes and having a fun time. This is the
    kind of atmosphere you want to provide for the girl.

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    One of my favorite ways to bring about this playground
    sensibility is a little bar game called the "mouse race".

    Simply take a pen and put it on a girl's arm. Explain to her that
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    here goes the blind mouse, so tell him when you want him to stop."

    Immediately, start drawing up her arm. Obviously, she'll tell
    the mouse to stop right away - she doesn't want an arm full
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    Using the same process, have her tell you when he should stop.

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    stop. Finally, it's time to race the "deaf mouse". Start
    drawing up her arm and, once again, she'll tell you to stop.
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    stupid little joke. The point isn't that it's funny, but that
    it's fun. And if she doesn't understand the joke, let her know.

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    laughing at both the stupidity of the joke and that she wasn't
    able to put that together on her own. And then, you're off.

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